We have been going around and around talking about the war in Ukraine, the Brown Jackson nomination which she succeed in what we knew was a slam dunk despite our protests, and last week Will Smith slapped Chris Rock in the face over a joke! Tell me, what is wrong with this picture? I did not even mention all the juicy tidbits about Biden’s dementia and his sad little big gaffes.
There is always more, there will always be more. This nation, with all the different people that want to keep their ethnic heritage, makes life difficult for those of us who grew up and maybe melted just a little bit into the melting pot. You know, when we really believed being American meant singing the national anthem at a football game before it began meant something. All those beers and cokes and Vienna hotdogs – we thought then we were in hog heaven living the American dream.
I’ve written about sitting in front of our homes or apartments on comfortable spring, summer, and fall evenings. When was the last time you knew who your neighbor was or did not even want to know, but now you don’t see or know who your neighbor is? For all we know he or she could be an ax murderer, and in that case, it would be good not to know your neighbor. However, God forbid one has an emergency and runs to the neighbor’s house they won’t open the door. Do a good deed like return your neighbor’s misdelivered mail. No, think twice because they will look at you like you are from another planet.
There are good people in America. I am not saying that. What I am saying is as a nation we do not trust one another anymore. We have bought into the idea that everyone has their own agenda for doing what they do or being who they are, and it might be all a facade. No one is willing to take chances. People socialize less, text more, and tell you they prefer not to talk. It is a strange place we live in this world.
I do not mean to sound negative or discouraging but how can we fix our nation if we are not willing to fix ourselves? I was once a very outgoing person, but after being shunned many times for being dubbed “too friendly” I just began to retreat and that is sad because it caused me to become something I am not — an introvert. It is bad when you feel you cannot be who you are. Now when I go the gatherings I am no longer the social butterfly, I have become the listener, and nothing wrong with that. Yet I prefer to stay away from the crowd and only mingle when necessary because I believe people are scared of people that are “too friendly.” I was not too friendly in a bad way, just jovial, and engaging, and now I am not.
Another blogger is offering people to write their stories for inspiration to share how they came through something, a situation, a family matter, whatever it is they feel they can share that would encourage others. Nice thought, nice sentiment but I learned long ago you can share too much, and in sharing there is not always a lesson, and sometimes when there is a lesson, that lesson may not be for you.
As for myself, I am private except with those whom I know, or trust. I am not afraid to share, but I always ask myself now is it worth it. It takes a lot to share your story or your truth — one runs the risk of criticism. I can handle criticism except when I was called dumb and stupid — but I was dumb and stupid — I shared my story! Now that story is reserved for the select people I truly trust to be fair or objective. Not that I did anything bad other than poor youth choices, but I believe most of us, not all, but most can lay claim to idiotic choices in our youth. But that was then, it is past. Why even give it credence?
Like this nation, it needs a reboot, perhaps we all do. Some self-reflection, prayer, some call it meditation. It is good for the heart, the soul, and your spirit. We need to make changes that work for us, but not to the point we eliminate others. It is sad that we could not all be on the same page and truly affect a change in this nation. The US needs a reboot. We need some radical change. People that care about the positions they hold for the people that elected them in the House and Senate would be a good start. If not, we will see the blue screen of death.